2008 Woodie Awards
Balancing God's providence with practicality
By: Kathryn Fox
Issue date: 11/29/06 Section: Opinion
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I was once set up on a blind date. Because I had seen the man before, I preferred calling it a "fuzzy vision" date.
The date was a disaster. Through the course of the meal, I felt as though I was filling out an application, and by the looks on his face I don't think I was the best candidate for the job. I walked away relieved and vowed never to do that again. The problem was he was searching for a wife, and I was not in search for a husband … yet.
Why did I feel the need to go on the date in the first place if I knew I was not ready for marriage? When a person reaches a certain age and is still single, he or she feels automatically rushed to make one of the most important decisions of his or her life.
My brother recently started dating someone he met on eHarmony.com. Wedding bells will be ringing in the near future for them. My brother even admits that he tried eHarmony.com because he was feeling desperate at 28 and still unmarried. I have no doubt that God can and will use whatever tool necessary, and for my brother, it was online dating. Now, because of his success I have had several people ask why I don't give it a try. I am just not there yet.
I am 24 and I am happy with my life. I have been on two missions trips, spent an entire year committed to the study of the Bible, had more parts in plays and skits than I can remember, met the most memorable and not so memorable people, worked four incredibly diverse jobs, moved three times, transferred to five different schools and finally settled on a major after the third change. I have had my ups and downs, but overall I am content.
I look forward to marriage. I have watched my mother everyday, and I pray that I can be just like her. She was a devoted wife and continues to be the most loving and caring mother.
When I was a child and people would ask me what I wanted to be when I grew up, my answer would always be a stay at home mom. That is still my desire, but it is not one that I am going to take into my own hands in order to accomplish.
A friend once asked me, "How are you putting yourself out there?" I disagree with that mentality. I am not hiding under a rock, and I am not opposed to dating. I am simply waiting.
God provided a wife for Isaac in Genesis 24. Both Isaac and Rebekah showed amazing trust knowing that God had their best interest in mind. I plan on living my life one day at a time and accomplishing whatever tasks the Lord has for me, just like Rebekah filling her pitcher with water at the well. It was there the servant found her; she did not have to go in search for him.
The date was a disaster. Through the course of the meal, I felt as though I was filling out an application, and by the looks on his face I don't think I was the best candidate for the job. I walked away relieved and vowed never to do that again. The problem was he was searching for a wife, and I was not in search for a husband … yet.
Why did I feel the need to go on the date in the first place if I knew I was not ready for marriage? When a person reaches a certain age and is still single, he or she feels automatically rushed to make one of the most important decisions of his or her life.
My brother recently started dating someone he met on eHarmony.com. Wedding bells will be ringing in the near future for them. My brother even admits that he tried eHarmony.com because he was feeling desperate at 28 and still unmarried. I have no doubt that God can and will use whatever tool necessary, and for my brother, it was online dating. Now, because of his success I have had several people ask why I don't give it a try. I am just not there yet.
I am 24 and I am happy with my life. I have been on two missions trips, spent an entire year committed to the study of the Bible, had more parts in plays and skits than I can remember, met the most memorable and not so memorable people, worked four incredibly diverse jobs, moved three times, transferred to five different schools and finally settled on a major after the third change. I have had my ups and downs, but overall I am content.
I look forward to marriage. I have watched my mother everyday, and I pray that I can be just like her. She was a devoted wife and continues to be the most loving and caring mother.
When I was a child and people would ask me what I wanted to be when I grew up, my answer would always be a stay at home mom. That is still my desire, but it is not one that I am going to take into my own hands in order to accomplish.
A friend once asked me, "How are you putting yourself out there?" I disagree with that mentality. I am not hiding under a rock, and I am not opposed to dating. I am simply waiting.
God provided a wife for Isaac in Genesis 24. Both Isaac and Rebekah showed amazing trust knowing that God had their best interest in mind. I plan on living my life one day at a time and accomplishing whatever tasks the Lord has for me, just like Rebekah filling her pitcher with water at the well. It was there the servant found her; she did not have to go in search for him.
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