The Skyliner

Issue date: 2/21/07 Section: Opinion

Keisha Tinsley
Staff Writer


Communication is the foundation of any relationship, including family, friendship or a significant other. When a problem arises, you should expect to have a conversation about whatever it is that has happened and come to a resolution.

However, I think in today's society that confrontation has taken a new turn. Instead of meeting and talking face-to-face, people now talk through text messages, e-mails, instant messages or messages sent through Facebook or MySpace. I am guilty of this myself.

I know it's not easy to talk to someone about how you're feeling or a problem that has occurred. However, it's not always the best thing to hold it in, bring it up a few months later and never take any action to fix the problem.

There are a lot of things that happen when you live with other people. Take my dormitory hall, for example. Having 40 girls living on one hall is an equation for drama. I know a few instances where people have been yelling one minute and in the next, they are best friends.

I think it is okay to have a disagreement about something. However, I also think that it should include the person or persons directly involved and not drag others into it. Having a disagreement is one thing, but when people constantly talk about it to everyone else except the other person is completely different.

Don't get me wrong, it's okay to ask for advice, but in general, sometimes it feels like people just want attention. Other times it feels like they want pity. Then there are the times that I can tell a person really is sincere about asking for help.

It makes me think about all the times that I want to express my feelings. I usually write everything down because once I ask a person to get together to talk I forget what it is that I want to say. How many times have you had things running through your head and wanted to say them to someone, but once you got the chance the words just seemed to disappear?

Communication does not have to be a problem. If you have a issue with someone, talk to the person about it. Don't text, e-mail, instant message or send a message through Facebook. I've found that talking about something is usually for the best. If both people can come to a solution, hold each other accountable and follow through with action.

So now I leave you with this verse: "It is to a man's honor to avoid strife, but every fool is quick to quarrel." (Proverbs 20:3).

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